From there, anxieties therapists might have about not being theologically knowledgeable or feeling as though it is вЂњnot their laneвЂќ to attempt to deal with a clientвЂ™s theological beliefs are addressed. She will also share from her own lived experience with the phenomenon. Next, the presenter will share case studies, both real-life and composite, of people affected by purity culture and the negative emotional, spiritual, sexual and relational consequences that often result from being steeped in it during formative years. Key theological concepts and doctrines that make up purity culture as well as the ways that they are most commonly manifested will be explained in this opening section. Led by one of the leading authorities on the topic, the workshop will address the definition of purity culture and the history behind it, showing therapists why clients may be coming to them with problems caused by purity culture and the unique historical and cultural context in which it arose. God also cares about our hearts not just behavior modification.This online workshop aims to educate, inform and empower clinical professionals about the issues surrounding purity culture that lead to the crisis known as #ChurchToo, so that they can better serve their clients who are struggling with the aftermath of religious sexualized violence.

Look at the motivation of your heart and why youвЂ™re wearing the clothes you choose.ItвЂ™s all about context, clothes, and presence.Modest can actually be an empowering thing.Kat recommends вЂњA return to ModestyвЂќ by Wendy Shallot This doesnвЂ™t mean we throw modesty out the window, but there is way to reframe it.Lust is not a solely male issue and womenвЂ™s bodies have been oversexualized.We are humans made in the image of God, and we are dehumanizing men if we feel they cannot control themselves.We are not the sum of our urges and men are not animals.How do we empower men and women to reframe modesty? Kat personally believes thereвЂ™s healthy ways to masturbate.Scripture is very clear on lust but not masturbation.When you feel the urge to masturbate, bring it God and acknowledge that desire.One of the most human experiences is sexual desire.You talk in your book about masturbation, could you break down the desire to masturbate? Practice embodiment and going from your head to your heart.Practice the art of being present and alive with your senses.Sexuality is not embarrassing, God made it.To embrace your sexual desire, first you have to acknowledge you sexual desire and show gratitude towards your body.If sexuality were a book, sex and intimacy would be one chapter.Sexuality is just a bigger and broader thing that makes us want to connect with other people.ThereвЂ™s a difference between sexual desire and a desire for sex.What do you do with your sexuality and desire if youвЂ™re choosing to not have sex before marriage? Sexuality and desire isnвЂ™t who you are, but it is apart of the human experience.She wanted to have open conversations on sex and sexuality thats not rooted in shame.She is vulnerable, discussing shame and her own story in this book.She wrote it to unpack any hot question sheвЂ™s had about God and sexuality.You JUST released your new book вЂњSexless in the CityвЂќ could you tell us about it? In this episode, Kat and Kait discuss all things sexual desire, purity culture, and even modesty! Today, we are celebrating the release of her brand new book вЂњSexless in the City:A Sometimes Sassy, Sometimes Painful, Always Honest Look at Dating, Desire, and SexвЂќ in Biblical Studies from Dallas Baptist University and is Co-Founder of the online publication The Refined Woman and host of The Refined Collective Podcast.

Her vision is for women to know their beauty, identity and value.

Kat is a Brooklyn-based online educator, digital content creator, female empowerment advocate. Heart of Dating couldnвЂ™t be more honored than to welcome one of KaitвЂ™s dearest friends to the show todayвЂ¦ Kat Harris!

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